"When sex is no longer sexual"

Like other things that change along with the new age, man’s source of pleasures change along. The act which once was considered as purely relating to the sexual organs and was called “sexual intercourse” is no longer the single source of man’s carnal pleasure.

Sex today is more and more not just about the penis penetrating the vagina. Now, you can add the tongue, lips, and the mouth.

Oral sex is increasingly popular in the contemporary world. Oral sex is done using the mouth, and it includes the lips and the tongue.

Oral sex has long been and is up to now in some societies considered a taboo. Many are embarrassed to try it because they fear being rejected. Some men think that their penis is not big or straight enough. At the same time, some women think that their labia are too big or hairy.

Another reason is that some people fear that their partner might not find the odor too pleasant. For some, they feel that giving in to their partner makes them feel vulnerable. For the rest, they might be brought up to thinking that their genital organs are made only for penetration or accession and not for the taste buds.

Still, many couples find oral sex exciting for that reason. Because oral sex is often considered as taboo, it becomes even more exciting. Its image as not only being forbidden but also being disgusting stirs the curiosity and adds to the willingness of couples to try it.

Many who do oral sex also enjoy because they feel that they are “special” because they are worth “eating”. For many, it can be the supreme way of expressing that they are accepted and love.

What to do? Talk to your partner beforehand to know if he or she agrees to oral sex. If he or she does not, ask for the reason. If it is because of embarrassment, console your partner and affirm your love.

Once both have agreed, make sure you are both clean by taking a bath. But avoid spraying too much perfume or putting too much deodorant. It is often the natural smell that attracts.

If any of you are embarrassed, dim the lights or use candles.

What not to do? Although it’s often called a “blow job”, you must not really blow. This can cause an infection. Also, avoid biting too hard or exaggerating to the point of hurting your partner.